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Our Harmonious Response to God’s Children – VOTD.05.22.18

I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received.  Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. Ephesians 4:1-3

We’ve already seen that unity isn’t about identicality, it’s about like-heartedness. So how do we cooperate with God to live in unity and how is it maintained? It depends a lot on our character in Jesus. Paul lists 5 characteristics that Christian unity depends on: humility, gentleness, patience, mutual forbearance, and love.

No big surprise that he begins with humility. Humility is essential to unity. Pride almost always results in discord and discord is almost always the result of pride at some level. Humility is the attitude that Jesus displayed in becoming a human being in the first place (Phil 2:3-8). In fact the word Paul used here is actually “humility of mind”—Humble-minded. That it’s an attitude that recognizes the worth and value of other people and allows for their diverse opinions.

Think about it for a moment. The people we tend to like to be around are people who show us respect even though they may not agree with us in many areas. The ones we don’t like to be with are the ones we sense disrespect or feel smug superiority from. Rather than maneuvering for the respect or esteem of others (which is the nature of pride), if we give them our respect, because we recognize their inherent God-given worth (which is the nature of this humility of mind that Ephesians is talking about), then we’ll be promoting harmony in our relationships; and result will probably be that they’ll respond to us with the same respect they’ve received. (more…)

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Why Helping People Repent Often Fails pt 1 – VOTD.10.02.17

And the Lord’s servant must be gentle … patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. Perhaps God may grant them repentance. – 2 Timothy 2:24-25

When I was a young believer, I took a job where I was responsible for the spiritual welfare of a floor or young men in a Christian college dormitory. As time went on, I ended up responsible for several men’s dormitories, so I got to watch this work out quite often. Some of these young men I dealt with were seemingly in a perpetual state of repentance over one thing or another. And just like clockwork, another group would rise up as would-be, caring “stronger brothers”…to hold them accountable…to keep them walking the line.

The problem was, even when the repenter truly wanted to change, these situations rarely-if-ever turned out well. I began to see a pattern: The “stronger” brothers fed off the “weaker” brother’s success in repentance to bolster and maintain the “stronger” brother’s image as a stronger brother. The “weaker” brother’s continued failings ultimately frustrated the stronger brother, because they expected to see a victorious return on their time, emotions, and ministry investment.

Since then, I’ve seen the same thing in local church-life since those days. How could that be? Let’s say a friend objectively and legitimately does something wrong. It’s sin, plain and simple. Their behavior is an offense to us and Jesus. To compound the problem, it’s not the first time they fell into this sin and it doesn’t look like it will be the last. So we step in to try to help the repenter succeed. (more…)

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